Belonging, Independence, and the Leadership Gap

Belonging, Independence, and the Leadership Gap in Modern Work

December 19, 20254 min read

Reflections on work, responsibility, and continuity in a time of rapid change

This post explores a growing tension in modern work: as technology accelerates change and careers become more fluid, responsibility still depends on continuity. Leaders are being asked to hold both independence and belonging at once—often without the structures that once made that possible.


Something is shifting in the way we work—and in the way we see one another.

You can feel it in conversations with friends, in the tension inside organizations, even in the quiet of coffee shops where people are sketching out new ideas or wondering whether to stay where they are.

People want to belong.
They want to contribute.
But they also want freedom—to think, to create, to build something that feels like their own.

And they want to be seen.

That tension between belonging and independence has always existed. What’s different now is the speed at which the ground beneath it is moving.


When work becomes fluid, responsibility does not

Technological change has accelerated the pace of work.

Skills become outdated faster. Roles shift more often. Careers are no longer linear. People move between jobs, industries, and ways of working far more frequently than they once did.

This flexibility creates opportunity—but it also fragments continuity.

Because while work has become more fluid, responsibility has not.

Families still depend on income.
Organizations still depend on trust.
Leaders still carry responsibility for outcomes, people, and futures—even as the structures beneath them change more rapidly than ever.

This is where much of today’s anxiety comes from. Not from a lack of talent or effort, but from a growing mismatch between how work is structured and what responsibility requires.


Thinking for yourself—and within a system

Michael’s story illustrates this tension well.

Instead of following a traditional academic path, he entered an on-demand industry and learned by doing. What mattered most to him wasn’t avoiding structure—it was learning how to think, not just what to think.

He didn’t simply show up and complete tasks. He paid attention to systems: where work slowed down, where people compensated manually for broken processes, where frustration had been normalized.

Over time, he built a solution that transformed how an airline managed its repair operations.

The response wasn’t immediate enthusiasm. The IT department resisted at first. Change always creates friction. But when the value became clear—when the solution strengthened the system rather than bypassed it—it was adopted.

Michael didn’t succeed by rejecting structure.
He succeeded by thinking independently within a shared system, and by translating insight into something others could carry forward.

That distinction matters.


Fragmentation erodes shared ownership

Across many organizations today, fragmentation shows up quietly.

People move more often. Teams reconfigure often. Knowledge walks out the door. Trust resets again and again.

Employees feel unseen.
Leaders feel they can’t rely on people.
Everyone feels replaceable—and exhausted.

When systems are built for stability but forced to operate under constant change, they strain. And when responsibility isn’t clearly carried forward—by people and by structure—it begins to fray.

What no one is clearly responsible for will always drift.


The longing to belong hasn’t disappeared

Despite all this change, something important hasn’t gone away.

People still want their work to matter. They still want to contribute to something larger than themselves. They still want to believe that what they build will last longer than their current role.

Thriving teams—and healthy organizations—depend on that belief.

But belonging can’t be sustained by goodwill alone. It requires structure: shared expectations, transferable knowledge, systems that don’t depend on one person’s constant presence.


We don’t need less structure—we need better structure

As disillusionment grows with traditional work models, many people strike out on their own. Others attempt to reshape organizations from within.

Neither path succeeds without structure.

Structure isn’t the enemy of freedom.
It’s what makes freedom durable.

Good systems:

  • protect time and attention

  • allow knowledge to outlast individuals

  • make responsibility shareable rather than isolating

They don’t eliminate change. They absorb it.

Leadership today isn’t about enforcing sameness or clinging to outdated models. It’s about building structures that can hold continuity even as roles, skills, and technologies evolve.


Leadership in an era of motion

The real challenge of modern work isn’t choosing between independence and belonging.

It’s learning how to hold both at once.

That requires leaders—and systems—that understand how responsibility accumulates, how quickly continuity can erode, and how much care it takes to build something others can rely on.

When we learn how to think—and how to think together—we build something stronger than a job.

We build work that can carry responsibility forward, even when everything else is in motion.

Toward greater clarity,
Sarah

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